The word dating brings sparkle in the eyes of anyone who is young or young at heart. Ask anyone about who is he or she dating? You will first notice a smile and the eyes rolling up. Marriage, dating, relationship are very healthy and normal words in any person’s life at the right time. But have you thought about the situation where a woman would be dating a married man?
For some women a handsome, charming man is simply irresistible, especially if he is rich besides having a position, name, fame in the society. “So what if he is married? – these women think.
Reasons for dating a married man
Marriage or divorce is not an issue at all for countless women who fall for the looks and other desirable assets of a man. All they want is to date such a man. Just look around and you can find a good number of women falling in love with a married man.
The reasons for dating a married man could be far and varied but perhaps not very logical. For some women it could be just that high feeling from the “adrenaline rush”, while others have a sense of achievement of a status in the society when they are seen with an accomplished and successful man. Other common reasons for such a dating could be to seek favors and for some it could be purely physical. All said and done, there is an adage which says, Love is Blind.
What is the downside of dating a married man?
What these women do not realize is that they are disturbing a delicate balance between two partners who are already committed to each other. This may be in the form of a marriage or a live in relationship.
Secondly, the outsider (woman) is getting herself prepared to play the evil role of a person causing divorce and / or breaking the family.
Thirdly, the lady who is dating the married man should try to understand the psychology and personality of the man. If he has not been loyal or committed to his wife, what is the guarantee that he will not do the same after some time with this lady?
It would be helpful here to read: Reasons Why Married Men Fall in Love with Other Woman
Another situation after some time could be that the married man decides not to leave his wife and kids and may say goodbye to his lover after he has had enough fun and good time. In fact, the statistics point out that probability of such a situation taking place is far more than the married man leaving his wife and family for his lover.
Have you realized that this kind of relationship has neither a name nor the respect from friends, relatives or the society? The lady has no name for the relationship to talk about in her circle. Of course, it would be foolish to think that the man would ever be able to introduce the lady in his circle of friends.
They have to call each other clandestinely; their meetings will be behind the closed doors. There is no freedom to seek and enjoy each other’s company openly. Yet, the world is no fool. They can’t pull wool over the eyes of so many people who are constantly watching and have good idea that what kind of relationship is going on.
It must really disturbing for both the persons involved in the relationship to know that people are talking bad behind their backs. More than the lady, it is the married man who runs the risk of somebody telling about his extra marital affair to his wife. So these are the disadvantages of dating and advantages of not dating.
Situation in the end
More often than not, such affairs where the woman falls in love with a married man and both start dating often ends in a fiasco. There are emotional dramas, threats of divorce or committing suicide by the wife, feelings of guilt by the man, financial burdens for various reasons and most likely the relationship ends breaking the heart of the lady. Please read: How to save Marriage and Avoid Divorce
What is the takeaway?
The points given above will definitely be eye opener form women while some may find it distasteful to the extent of feeling hurt emotionally. Whatever be the case, there is a wise saying – “a stitch in time saves nine”.
Do not fall into this trap of false relationship which is nothing but illusion which gives only temporary pleasure and later it sucks the person into the quicksand. Soon it will take you into the chapter of life which will be full of situations like remorse, heart break, divorce and bitterness. So if you know a lady who is dating a married man, do some counseling to her and tell her to put off the fire of passion, before it is too late. Recommended reading: How to be Strong Emotionally and Mentally
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